Friday, 22 May 2015

How Does He Feel About Me?

how does he feel about me
Over the years I have tackled all sorts of questions as a Tarot reader, and I don't rephrase any of them.

How does he feel about me? is one of those that keeps coming up.

This question is asked for a number of reasons, including:

1. You've just met someone and wonder, if they like you as much as you like them.

2. A relationship has ended, and you're wondering, if they still have feelings for you that may get you back together.

3. You are dating someone, but keep getting mixed messages about their intention.

If you decide to ask me for a reading to get clarity on any of the above, then I must confess:

I cannot tell for sure, because tuning into someone's feelings without their permission rarely offers a clear and correct answer.

You see, when I do a reading for you, then the cards drawn are about you and how you are connected to others, not the other way round.

Speculating about other people's feelings isn't helping, if you are ignoring yourself. When you focus on other people's feelings, you are handing over your power to them. Don't do this to yourself.

Instead, I'd like to encourage you to consider the possible answers to your question from your perspective:

1. If you're wondering, whether someone is interested in you, then it's always best to look out for the signs. It often takes a little time and patience, even courage, when you have to make the first move, but it's worth it. One way or the other you will gain clarity, and you'll learn an important life skill, namely to read people based on their (non-)actions and (lack of) communication.

2. The ending of a relationship is painful, but this isn't the right time to wonder about their feelings. What about yours? Accept that it's over for now and work on moving on, rather than looking back. Acceptance of the breakup also helps you put closure on it, if this is something you are seeking with a reading.

3. If someone goes hot and cold on you, then chances are, they might not be that in to you. Perhaps they have commitment issues or other complex stuff going on in their life, but that's not for you to waste your precious time thinking about. If their intention is vague and it drives you nuts, don't care about what they feel, care about yourself and let go.

You need to be aware that reading about other people's thoughts, actions and feelings without their knowledge or permission is just speculation, and the cards drawn will mostly reflect your energies, not theirs.

But if you still want to ask how does he feel about me?, then go ahead; a one-card reading or mini reading will suffice to offer you some insight and an empowering message to help you move forward.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane



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Thursday, 12 February 2015

The Wisdom of Judgement

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Tarot of Quotes
Judgement is all around us, most notably in the media. All that celebrity gossip is practically begging us to form an opinion about people, who we don't actually know and we really shouldn't care about.

We are quick to judge others - by their looks, clothes, jobs, possessions, religion, status, nationality etc. - and we can also be our own worst critic.

Judgement is encouraging us to rise above it all, to let go of what doesn't concern us and to see the bigger picture without emotions and the drama.

Sometimes you have to do what you have to do in order to live a happy and fulfilled life, even if it means you are not meeting other people's expectations. Be true to yourself.

"It’s okay to live a life others don’t understand." 
Jenna Woginrich

Rather than just passing judgement on someone and dismissing them for their actions, follow it up with forgiveness to avoid lingering anger and resentment.

Likewise, when people keep holding the past against you, you may need to walk away.

If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you've made, if they don't realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” 

If you are faced with criticism or rejection, remember: 

Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.

Be honest. Nobody is perfect including you. Recognise and admit you've made a mistake. It's a lesson learned

“More people would learn from their mistakes, if they weren't so busy denying them.” 
Harold J. Smith
Judgement may ask you to make plans for the future, find a new goal or even your life purpose:

“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.”
Buddha


Judgement may indicate that you have changed.

You have grown.

You've come a long way.

Perhaps one chapter in your life story needs to be closed, so you can begin a new one.

Recognising a new beginning.

Feeling reborn.

What to avoid: righteousness, prejudice, intolerance, self-deception, narrow-mindedness, ignorance, indecision, negative self-talk.

Affirmation: I trust and believe in myself.

For more inspiring quotes and affirmations for each card, please check out my ebook Empowering Messages from the Tarot



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Monday, 12 January 2015

Embracing Uncertainty

embracing uncertainty
Anything is possible.

Always.

Even at times when you think nothing is happening, change is on its way.

My life is changing.

Just a few months ago back in November, I thought that despite some unsettling events, my path ahead was clear.

But then a chance encounter turned everything upside down.

Another Wheel of Fortune moment. And I didn't even pick a card to see what's coming.

I didn't want to pick a card, because I have learned to accept the unknown.

Uncertainty can be scary, but once you can overcome that fear, there is no need to consult the Tarot to answer questions such as

"Will it go well?"
"Will I be okay?"
"Is everything going to work out?"

To be honest, I don't want to know. That's the beauty of uncertainty. Ignorance can be bliss, so your vision isn't clouded by cryptic messages from the cards, which can often lead to more confusion.

What really counts is the journey forward. Each step you take. Progress you make. The outcome will always be unknown depending on the actions you take along the way.

Of course, sometimes fate can deal us some painful blows out of the blue (perhaps the Tarot would give an indication), but then life goes on, and we are the masters of how we want to proceed.

Change, uncertainty, the unknown and impermanence can all be deeply unsettling. The feeling of being out of control prompts many of us to seek some kind of reassurance.

But I don't want any reassurance. I don't want to know in advance, if all goes well or not.

I just want to embrace uncertainty and enjoy the ride. At this moment in time, it feels good. As long as it feels good in the present moment, I am happy to choose this path regardless of where it might lead.

At this moment in time, I don't need any more clues.

Although not everything is clear, I know that as time goes on, everything will unfold as it's meant to be.

Before you rush to have a reading about your future, I invite you to consciously embrace uncertainty.

Will your marriage last? Will your new job be your best career move ever?

Just be okay about not knowing. 

Be prepared for all possibilities including the not so happy-ever-after ones.

Life is a gamble. As long as you follow your heart, you will enjoy the journey and create the life you want to live along the way.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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Monday, 17 November 2014

How Chanting Can Help You Meditate

how chanting can help you meditate
Do you find it hard to still your mind during meditation?

Do you tend to sit in your meditation class desperately trying to avoid thinking about what you'll have for dinner or those bills that keep piling up?

Let me assure you, you're not alone.

I was just like you, and sometimes those unwanted thoughts still trip me up, but I've come across a method that has helped me immensely, and perhaps you will find it useful, too.

First of all, don't underestimate the power of meditation. It's good for your general wellbeing. It helps you relax, build inner strength and thus promotes a healthy balance of mind-body-spirit.

But our busy monkey mind stops us from meditating effectively.

It's impossible for us to stop thinking. Even while we sleep, our minds produce thoughts in the form of dreams.

Buddhism teaches us that rather than trying hard to stop thinking, we need to trick the monkey mind instead.

How are we going to do that?

By giving it something else to do - something meaningful, too! - which helps us create some powerful magick within us at the same time.

Last year, whilst on a Buddhist retreat, I discovered chanting.

It may sound eccentrically new age to you, but believe me, after initially feeling weird, I felt its benefit almost straight away.

When you repeatedly chant the same words in the ancient and magickal language of Sanskrit, it becomes a mantra, which can gradually shift negative patterns in your life, depending on the meanings of the words.

So depending on what you want to manifest in your life, you choose the mantra that can help you make it happen.

What I love about chanting is that you don't need to sit still or in a certain position; at the retreat, we walked in a circle on a meadow and around a fireplace (nobody else saw us :))

For example, you can chant whilst having a relaxing bath, or you can of course choose the traditional meditation position.

mala prayer beads
My Mala prayer bead necklace - turquoise beads
divided by white beads into 4 x 27 sections
How many times should you chant the mantra?

The magickal number is 108. The best way to count correctly during chanting is by using a Mala prayer bead necklace. One bead for a complete mantra, until the circle is completed.

If 108 times sounds too much for you at first, you can also shorten your chant down to 27 or 54 times. These numbers are important and in Buddhist and Sanskrit teachings they have magickal powers.

The Number 108 divided by 4 equals 27. A Mala bead necklace is divided into four sections of 27 beads.

Do you need to have a good singing voice to chant?

No. You can simply recite the words repeatedly at a steady and regular pace.

Now that you know the basics, here are four chants I use:


1. Ham Sa

Pronounced: Hahhm Sahh

Meaning: I am That

This very basic mantra helps you ground yourself and focus on your breathing: Ham (inhale) Sa (exhale).

It is said to be a mantra for the heart; it helps you relax and centre. After chanting a round of Ham Sa, you may feel calm yet more energised.


2. Om Namah Shivaya

I discovered this chant in Elizabeth Gilber's book Eat, Pray, Love. I love the sound when I chant it; its vibration resonates with me deeply.

Pronounced: Aum nah-mah shi-vay

Meaning: I bow to Shiva.

The Hindu God Shiva symbolises the inner self, so by chanting this mantra, you honour the divinity within yourself, and it is said to promote self-worth and confidence.

A spiritual healing mantra, it is made up of five syllables, which represent the five elements earth, air, fire, water and ether.


3. Om Kleem Shreem Brzee 

This is an ancient Sanskrit mantra for bringing love and abundance into your life. It is often recommended for attracting money or new romantic love, but abundance doesn't always relate to financial wealth, and love can also relate to friendships, connectedness and a loving support network.

Pronounced: check out this YouTube clip, and if you like, sing along to get into the groove ;)

Meaning:

Om - universal sound of creation
Kleem - sound for spiritual development, love and devotion
Shreem - sound for the divine feminine associated with abundance and prosperity
Brzee - sound for removing scarcity from consciousness

Put these four sounds together, and you create an open mind and receptiveness to let love and abundance into your life by removing inner blocks and obstacles surrounding you.

You can shorten this mantra two-ways to make it more specific:

1. Om Shreem Brzee - to attract abundance and prosperity
2. Om Kleem Brzee - to attract friendships and relationships


4. Ra Ma Da Sa Sa Say So Hung

A universal healing mantra, which consists of the sounds of the four universal energies

Ra - sun
Ma - moon
Da - earth
Sa ( repeated) - infinity

together with Say So Hung, meaning  I am Thou.

This mantra is said to build bodily resistance to disease and can have a healing effect on the body. Its sound stimulates flow and circulation of prana (life force) through the body.

Chant it steadily, inhaling Ra Ma Da Sa and exhaling Sa Say So Hung. Linger a little on the sound 'ng' in Hung as it is said to stimulate divine glands.

Notice this chant has eight syllables - the number of rebirth.

If you are a novice to chanting, then you may find the above mantras easy to pronounce and remember. With regular practice you will notice their calming effect and power to help you focus your mind on manifesting your desires.

For more information, you can search online for chanting meditation for beginners, or google the above mantras. There is a wealth of information freely available including viewpoints on how to chant "correctly". Remember to keep it simple at first before you delve deeper. One step at a time.

Let me know how you get on, and if chanting is already part of your spiritual practice, please share your tips and favourite mantras in the comment box below. I'd love to hear from you!

Warmest wishes,

Christiane



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Friday, 7 November 2014

5 Reasons Why Your Relationships Don't Last

5 reasons why your relationships don't last
“Like some wines, our love could neither mature nor travel.”
Graham Greene, The Comedians


Picture this scenario:

Girl meets boy.
Girl and boy start dating.
Girl and boy getting on well.
Girl and boy getting close.
Girl and boy having fun.
Boy leaving girl.
Repeat.
Repeat.
Repeat.

Girl starts asking herself: " What the f*ck am I doing wrong?

Girl then asks me for a Tarot reading: "When will I meet my soul mate / the one / my twin flame / etc." (What the f*ck am I doing wrong would be the more empowering question)

(Feel free to amend above scenario by replacing boy with girl or girl with boy according to your sexual orientation. Flip girl/boy if you're a broken-hearted boy.)

If you can relate to this kind of cycle of repetitive unfortunate events, here are some possible reasons, why you haven't found your happy-ever-after love yet:
  1. You have an intense need for love and affection. Emphasis is on 'intense'. Feelings of loneliness are amplified, and until you finally stumble across Mr. or Mrs. Right, you will need to accept the situation, stop feeling pity for yourself and focus your energies on other activities you enjoy. And a good set of friends can give you a great deal of love and emotional support.
  2. You have low self-esteem. You don't feel complete without a loving companion by your side. You are longing for someone, who validates you. Someone you can travel with etc. But you need to learn that you are enough, whole and complete. You can travel on your own and end up having a better time than with some transient lover cooped up in a hotel bedroom all weekend.
  3. You have an inability to set boundaries. In the early stages of a relationship, before you get intimate, you need to be clear about what kind of relationship you both want, right down to the nitty-gritty details of sexual preferences. Sounds clinical perhaps talking about it, but trust me, it will save you from making some stupid mistakes. Bonus tip: Never assume anything.
  4. You have difficulty expressing anger. Probably because you're just too nice and accommodating. You don't want to make a fuss, or seem to be 'highly strung'. You may also tend to blame yourself for being too sensitive. But by not expressing yourself, you are only lowering your standards and become a pushover. 
  5. You ignore the warning signs that it won't last. Loverboy or girl no longer in touch as often as at the beginning? Still haven't introduced you to their parents / kids / friends yet after three months? Spending more time socialising without you? There are so many different signs you need to look out for. Tolerance may be your weakness here, and unless you put your foot down (see 3. and 4.) and end it on your terms, you will instead leave it in their power to treat you as they please. 
The question is now, how you can break the cycle and overcome your negative behavioural pattern, so you stop floating from one breakup to the next?

Why not ask the Tarot?

Shuffle your deck and pull a card for each question:
  • Which negative behavioural pattern do I need to change? (relates to any of the five above, but the card may offer a more specific answer)
  • What positive action can I take right now to shift my behaviour? 
  • What do I need to avoid?

Warmest wishes,

Christiane



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Thursday, 4 September 2014

Just One Little Thing That Can Change Your Life Forever

wheel of fortune tarot of quotes
Tarot of Quotes
"One new perception,
one fresh thought,
one act of surrender, 
one change of heart,
one leap of faith 
can change your life forever."
Robert Holden


Just one thing.
A phone call. 
A chance meeting. 
A rejection. 
A random act of something.

For me it was back in 1983, when I was nearly being offered an apprenticeship with a prestigious company in my hometown in Germany. 

It was the kind of job that would set me up for life. It was between me and someone else. One of us would get the job.

I had to attend three interviews, and each time it got tougher. 

Fancy putting a 19-year old through a management-style recruitment process...yes, I know it's outrageous, and that's exactly how I suddenly felt about it whilst attending the third and final meeting.

And I decided during the sometimes sexist questioning (those were the days!) that I no longer gave a shit.

Needless to say I didn't get the job.

I went to university instead. Travelled through Europe, stayed in hippie communes and just enjoyed being a free spirit. I discovered women spirituality and had my first encounter with the Tarot.

My final excursion was England, where I lived for a year as an Au-Pair before I returned to Germany to complete my studies.

And then I came back to the UK and have lived here ever since. 

When I attended a school reunion a few years ago, I discovered that most of my class mates had never moved beyond a five mile radius of their place of birth. Some of them even got married to each other (gasp!).

I wondered, how my life would have been different, if I hadn't mentally given up in that interview and then been offered that apprenticeship... 

So, dear reader, what is the ONE little thing you will do today that could change your life forever?

Don't know? Why not pick up your favourite Tarot deck and pull a card or more for some suggestions. Can you influence the next turn of your Wheel of Fortune?

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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Sunday, 31 August 2014

What Makes A Happy Relationship? 10 Signs You're On The Right Track

what makes a good relationship two of cups tarot of quotes
Cupid's arrow doesn't always strike on your first date,
but there are signs that indicate promising potential
“I think perhaps love comes from finding someone you feel utterly comfortable with, someone who makes you comfortable with yourself. It's like...finding yourself, or maybe it's like finding the other part of yourself.”
Candice Proctor, Whispers of Heaven


In a world of internet dating and virtual matchmaking, finding new love that lasts can be quite an eventful journey ranging from fun to traumatic.

Especially when you find yourself single after a long-term relationship has come to an end, figuring out if a potential match is worth pursuing can be confusing.

First of all, remember that sexual attraction doesn't necessarily mean you are compatible. When passion fizzles out, there may not be much else left. Get to know each other first, unless a casual fling is all you want.

On the other hand, don't expect love at first sight when you meet someone. If you get on really well together, but haven't been blown off your feet, then don't give up just yet. Meet up for a few more social activities and see where it takes you.

This is the kind of date where often confusion sets in; you're expecting a surge of passion hitting you as soon as you see the person, but instead you have to get used to the fact that their 3D appearance is somewhat different to the photo you've seen of them before.

But fear not!

Here are some signs that help you focus and indicate you may be on to a winner:

1. Conversation flows naturally, and you feel at ease with each other.

2. You don't experience awkward silences, and if you do on your first date, it's only because you're nervous. That's normal. However, that nervousness gets quickly dissolved, because you both sense how you can make the other feel more relaxed.

3. You keep in touch regularly via text, phone or email at a level you both feel comfortable with. You don't need to wonder, when the other will be in touch again, and you don't feel like you'd rather not respond and only do so, because you want to be polite.

4. Even if you haven't yet fallen head over heels in love, you actually look forward to seeing the other again soon, and you feel excited about the social activities you have planned together.

two of cups tarot of silhouettes
Tarot of Silhouettes (c) Steven Bright
5. You are both happy to take things slowly and want to get to know each other first before you commit to anything further. There is no pressure.

6. You feel safe and relaxed in the other's presence. You can be yourself, and you feel you don't need to pretend.

7. You both find it easy to talk about the kind of relationship you want. You are honest about your aspirations rather than telling the other what you think they'd want to hear.

8. You both share similar beliefs and values, and you enjoy healthy debates on topics you don't agree on.

9. You don't judge the other by their likes of music, books or hobbies, unless they are extreme and don't comply with your core values, or you want to live like Siamese twins spending every minute together.

10. You feel a little spark slowly igniting every time you meet the other.

In many cases you know after the first or second meeting, if it's going anywhere or not, but sometimes the future potential of a new date isn't that clear straight away.

In a nutshell, a good relationship unfolds and flows naturally. There is no pressure, game-playing, second-guessing, vague communication, tension or drama. If you experience any of these issues, you need to address them and quickly move on, if there is no improvement.

Of course, you can consult the tarot to explore the possibilities. Better still, add some astrology and see if you are compatible.

But best of all, use your common sense and look out for those signs above to work out, if you both have the potential of a happy future together.

“Whatever he had found, it made him a better person. Maybe that's what love was, finding the person who brings out the best in you and eliminates the worst.”
Diana Holquist, Make Me a Match


Warmest wishes,

Christiane



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