Monday, 30 May 2016

When Your Relationship Needs A Boost

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Tarot of Quotes
"A relationship is a three-part journey: First there's infatuation. Then there's conflict – the part where most people jump ship. The third part is becoming an active participant in your partner's feelings, and that's the method to the madness."
- Alanis Morissette


This is one of my favourite quotes about how relationships work, and it is true that many people go their separate ways during the conflict phase.

Conflict doesn't necessarily mean heated arguments and slamming doors. Quite the opposite.

It is usually smouldering resentment towards the other's annoying habits and personality traits that drives couples apart.

Things are no longer the same as they were during the honeymoon period.

Complacency sets in. Masks begin to crumble.

Less quality time spent together due to work and other commitments. Your partner's irritability and lack of cooking skills annoys you. Less romance, less fun...perhaps no romance or fun at all...

Now is a good time to take stock and make amends.

The honeymoon period always ends, but there is much that can be done to keep the spark alive and move onwards to stage three. 

Although you are aware of the obvious reasons why you are not as happy together as you used to be, you can explore what is going on in your relationship on a deeper, unconscious level. 

Here is a five-card spread you can try:

1. What is the underlying current energy of the relationship?
2. What needs to be addressed?
3. What is going well?
4. What is being neglected?
5. What will improve the relationship?

when your relationship needs a boost
Cosmic Journaling Oracle
I have used the Cosmic Journaling Oracle for the sample reading:

1. Journey

There is a sense of longevity and unfulfilled potential. Look back and see how far you have come. Have you been on an eventful journey together? Did you have to deal with external challenges that put you both under stress?

You may now realise that you have encountered some bumps and steep hills along the road, and now it is time to focus more on enjoyable and exciting adventures that are still to come. Make some plans and make it happen.

2. Intention

This card suggests making plans, having a goal or simply paying more attention to each other's needs. Intention also means focus, making a conscious choice and seeing it through. However, it can also mean that intentions haven't been kept.

Perhaps a holiday was cancelled or you didn't go for that romantic meal after all. Even worse, your other half has started smoking again... Look at what you intended to do and why it didn't happen. Is there a pattern that needs to be broken? Talk about it.

3. Sensitivity

Sensitivity as a strength in a relationship offers the gift of empathy and mutual understanding. There is a keen awareness of how the other is feeling, but it is also important to open up and express your own feelings.

Sensitivity in this position may also suggest that your senses are not letting you down. Trust them, especially when you 'sense' that something isn't quite right and needs to be addressed.

Sensitivity may also remind you to choose your words and actions wisely and carefully in order to avoid unnecessary drama including hurt, anger and defensiveness.

4. Renewal

When renewal is being neglected, it suggests resistance to making changes, perhaps even denying responsibility. There are obstacles preventing you from moving forward, which may include challenging behavioural traits or external challenges like work or family commitments.

How can you encourage renewal in your relationship, so it can evolve? An additional question to ask the oracle!

5. Trust

If trust is an issue in your relationship, you will need to address it in order to make positive changes. You need to explore if your trust issues are justified or based on past experience or irrational worries.

This can also be an issue for your partner, who may not yet feel secure in your relationship.

The best way to build trust is by being totally reliable, open and honest. When you begin to realise that you can count on the other no matter what, this will be a huge step for you in the right direction.

Think about how you can improve mutual trust in your relationship. If you need some inspiration, pull another card.

I hope you will find this spread helpful, either for yourself or a person you are reading for. Please do let me know, how it's worked for you. 

If you would like me to do this reading for you, please choose the 5-card reading option on my Tarot Readings by Email page.

The Cosmic Journaling Oracle is also available as a digital edition with a 30% discount on the printed copy of the deck.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane



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Wednesday, 13 April 2016

Why Curiosity Is The New Black

why curiosity is the new black
Curiosity killed the cat... and satisfaction brought it back.
“Why is it that when one man builds a wall, the next man immediately needs to know what's on the other side?” - George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

Do fears, low self-esteem and other self-imposed restrictions hold you back? Then you may be surprised to learn that developing and nurturing a curious mind can help you overcome these blocks.

As children we had no inhibitions when it came to expressing our creativity or exploring unknown places, but while growing up, we started to develop all kinds of insecurities and self-doubt, which have become so hard to shake off.

Curiosity is a surprisingly simple and useful tactic that will help you make some positive changes, and that's why I included it in the Cosmic Journaling Oracle.

Next time you are fearful of something, be curious instead.

Explore despite your fears. Express yourself and be curious about where it leads you.

Meet new people anyway, even if you fear rejection. Be curious about getting to know new folk.

Show off your art anyway, even if you think it's not good enough. Be curious about what people have to say. Even ask them for feedback. Wouldn't it be great to know what people think rather than making assumptions?

Curiosity in the Cosmic Journaling Oracle asks you to replace any blocks you have with a sense of wonder and the open mind of an explorer.

Explore new opportunities and experiences. Instead of No, say Yes. Why not?

When this card comes up in a reading, ask yourself:

  • When were you last curious about something? Did you ignore the feeling or embraced it to learn something new?
  • What do you need to be more curious about in your life? You could draw an additional card to find out.
  • How has curiosity affected you in childhood? How does it affect you as an adult?
  • Has curiosity at any time got you into danger? If yes, when and what's the story? How was it resolved? What did you learn from it?
Likewise, when this card comes up in a "what not to do" position, you may want to avoid being nosey, e.g. meddle in other people's issues that are none of your business. And curiosity isn't about being reckless, getting yourself into life danger or gamble all your life savings...

The Cosmic Journaling Oracle is now available as a digital edition together with a guidebook containing journaling sheets and other printable goodies. Learn more here.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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Monday, 4 April 2016

Making Tarot Journaling More Fun

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From: Cosmic Faery's Journal Workbook
Who says keeping a diary or recording your tarot / oracle readings should be done on boring white paper?

There are more creative ways you can make your journal look exciting and inviting.

In order to make it easy for you taking the first step, I have created a wide range of journaling sheets for you to download for free and also to buy. Good news is that there will be many more on the way to cover all sorts of topics.

As you can see from the pics in this post, adding some colour and redesigning the writing space already makes a difference to help you think outside the box.

In addition, using different colour pens, your own doodles, stickers and printed card images you will make your journal truly unique.

There are many different journaling sheets available, for one-, two- and multi-card readings, daily/weekly reflections, gratitude lists etc.

cosmic journaling oracle digital edition
From: Cosmic Journaling Oracle
Digital Edition & Guidebook
The sheets are designed to be flexible; you can also use them to record your favourite quotes, things to do, books to read, films to watch, bucket lists and so much more.

And the best thing about downloads is you can print them again and again to feed your journaling habit.

My latest creation is the digital edition of the Cosmic Journaling Oracle, which comes with a guidebook including printable bonus material such as greeting cards, journaling sheets and cover pages.

The oracle deck has been specifically designed for journaling but also for divination.

Together with the guidebook you can use the cards for self-exploration while creating a unique record of your life journey.

All my printable products have been designed for paper lovers and those who would like to rediscover their passion for handwriting and the real feel of paper (rather than just keeping notes in the digital twilight zone on electronic devices).

cosmic journaling sheets
From my journaling workbook and the Cosmic Journaling Oracle guide
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I'd love to welcome you to the cosmic journaling club. You can make a start with my freebies, and please do let me know how you get on. You can buy my journaling ebooks here.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane



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Tuesday, 8 March 2016

Cosmic Journaling Oracle - Sensitivity

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Cosmic Journaling Oracle
“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. 

To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. 

It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. 

There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. 

Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. 

Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
- Anthon St. Maarten


What does sensitivity mean to you? 

Do you feel you need to grow a "thick skin" when people regard you as "highly strung"? 

Or do you embrace your sensitivity in order to stand your ground and take no shit?

Explore your life with the Cosmic Journaling Oracle

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Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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Sunday, 6 March 2016

Balancing Darkness and Light

balancing darkness and light
I've succumbed to the new age fad of "adult colouring"
and found that surprisingly relaxing ;)
If you have been reading my blogs for a while, then you know that I am not a member of the "love 'n' light" brigade, constantly churning out sugar-coated new age sound bites about happiness, unconditional love and floating in a state of eternal bliss.

Far from it.

My writings and the work I do are based on my personal experiences of the darkness that exists in my life - endings, loss, bereavement, change, depression, anxiety, insecurities, illness, loneliness.

The love 'n' light brigade keeps telling me to "release" all those things, "let go" or even ignore, but that's easier said than done. How exactly do you "release" depression, feelings of loss or uncertainty?

In reality, dealing with these issues involves a lot of work, which includes acknowledging, facing and embracing the shadow in our lives. It also means admitting to it!

Even in nature, there is no sunlight without the casting of a shadow, no day without night. Light and dark both have a role to play in a holistic and sustainable kind of spirituality, which is the only way to initiate growth, healing and enlightenment (wisdom).

Of course, if you tend to be a pessimist and your thoughts keep revolving around negative aspects in your life, then it is wise to have a reminder once in a while to be more positive, hence "Today focus solely on the positive", a message from my Manifesting Change Cards.

It is very easy to fall into the trap of negativity when having to deal with major change and upheaval.

This card isn't about ignoring reality; it's just asking you to give yourself a break.

I pulled this card yesterday, and as a result I reminded myself of all the good stuff currently going on in my life. Also, the little things around me that give me pleasure.

I had a very productive and positive day, because I knew this wasn't about putting my head into the sand. And lo and behold, at midnight the spell was over, and I woke up early with fears of loneliness in old age....

You may be laughing now, or perhaps you understand. The point is, my spirituality is a mix of love 'n' light and doom 'n' gloom. For me, one can't exist without the other.

If some new age guru tells you to ignore all the shit in your life, then think again.

Denial and ignorance isn't the answer to your problems. There is much you can do to blend both aspects of your life in order to - perhaps paradoxically - be happier and more fulfilled.

Find creative outlets to confront your darkness. Reach out, help others. Divine possibilities and solutions. Your darkness after all may be your driving force to greatness. Use it as a fuel on your journey.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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Sunday, 14 February 2016

4 Reasons Why you Are Still Single

4 reasons why you are still single, love, cosmic journaling oracle
Cosmic Journaling Oracle
If you have been single for a while, chances are you wouldn't mind meeting that special someone to love and share your life with.

Unless of course you are totally happy with being single, then you don't need to read any further.

But if you do read on, then you might be wondering, why love seems to persistently elude you.

There can be many reasons, which you may be aware of, but sometimes it can also be down to your unconscious behaviour and state of mind that blocks you from attracting that fulfilling relationship you are dreaming of.

Here are some possibilities:

1. You are bitter and resentful about your past experiences

So many people experience a string of unhappy relationships, and after a while it either makes them start keeping 30 cats, or they become highly cynical about the whole love thang.

Unconsciously they begin to develop a kind of victim mentality, forever going on about how terribly they were hurt, and never wanting to be in that situation again.

If you fit into this category, then I know what you must be going through. I sadly haven't been immune to mistreatment either, but I advise you not to let these people rule the rest of your life in such a negative way.

Slowly you are building an impenetrable wall around you, and the only way you can pull it down again is by accepting what happened, learn from it, forgive those people, and then move on.


2. You are still clinging to your ex

If you are still hoping for your ex to return, then you won't attract anybody remotely suitable for you. That's because unconsciously you are not interested in long-term relationships but short-lived flings to fill the void.

You may also still be grieving for your broken relationship and may make some desperate choices for comfort, which you may later regret.

The best thing to do is accept that your ex is unlikely to come back and release that relationship mentally and emotionally. I know it is hard and it will take a while, but it will help you put closure on the past and open up to new opportunities.


3. You are waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect

The basic ingredients for a long-term relationship is mutual attraction, chemistry, trust and respect. It's also important that you share same interests (at least a few) and values. On that foundation you can develop long-term love and commitment.

But do they really have to have a university degree like you? Or have lots of money? Or a job that your parents (or your peers) approve of?

Whatever you are looking for in your next relationship, by all means make a priority list, but don't dismiss someone, only because they don't tick one of the ingredients on your wishlist.

Think carefully about what is most important to you, but don't make that list so long that it will be hard for anyone to fulfil.

Explore, where you could compromise and still make it work. This isn't about "settling" for second best but discovering the hidden gems in a potential relationship and the all-important give and take.


4. You are desperate

It's been so long since your last relationship that you have stopped discerning the wheat from the chaff, and you are looking at every man or woman you meet as a love potential.

This can make you act in strange ways, like getting too close to someone you talk to at a social event, drink too much, offer your phone number etc. without noticing that they are just not interested in you.

And when you do get the chance for another date, then you keep getting in touch with them too often, and basically on an unconscious level you just exude desperation, which sadly is terribly unattractive.

Cool down. Step back. Relax. There is a better way how you can attract love into your life without trying too hard.

That doesn't mean you have to crawl into a shell and stop socialising. Instead, enjoy meeting new people and see them as potential friends rather than anything more. This way you build your social network, and who knows, one of them might be rocking your boat at one point in the future.

faith cosmic journaling oracle
Cosmic Journaling Oracle
Always trust the process and know that love will come your way when you least expect it.

Questions you could ask the Tarot:

1. What blocks have I created that hinder me from finding new love?

2. How can I overcome them?

3. What else can I do over the next four weeks to invite new love into my life?

If you love using the Tarot to explore your love issues, then you may enjoy using my Tarot & Spirituality workbook containing some insightful spreads and activities for self-development and personal growth.

For more articles on love and relationship topics, click here.

And if you would like a reading for personal guidance, I am here for you.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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Friday, 5 February 2016

The Cosmic Journaling Oracle - Awakening

cosmic journaling oracle awakening
Cosmic Journaling Oracle
The Cosmic Journaling Oracle isn't quite like other oracle decks out there.

It doesn't tell you how to interpret each card, it asks you to write your own story. That's why the word 'journaling' is part of its name.

The Cosmic Journaling Oracle invites you to create your own meanings for each card by exploring your life from one card to the next - from awakening to completion.

Pick a card and see what memories, ideas and emotions are triggered. Write about them.

The divination aspect of this deck lies in the random draw of a card, which asks you to pay attention to this particular topic.

You can also use the cards to answer specific questions, no problem at all. But before you do that, spend some time with the cards to make a connection, and you will notice how spookily accurate the messages and even predictions may turn out.

Awakening - I'm not telling you how this card should fit into your life or indeed how you should define or interpret it.

This is my personal story about Awakening, and yours may be similar or totally different, and that's the beauty of an oracle deck, which doesn't limit the card meanings to the creator's personal world.

Here, my story about Awakening only acts as an example of how you can work with each card of the deck.

Awakening - the moment I began to realise that after years of stagnation something was stirring inside me. My Awakening moments occurred at times of great change, grief and loss.

After one such event many years ago, I picked up my Tarot deck again after years of abandonment. There it was in my hands again, and the rest is history.

The very first time I came in contact with Tarot was when I felt overwhelmed by life's uncertainty with a lack of direction, when I was a student at university in the early 1980s.

By chance I joined a women's circle at the campus and looked with curiosity through a Tarot deck one of the women brought along. I was wondering, how fortune-telling could possibly work, and I wanted to know.

Awakening.

The urge to go on a magickal quest was always inside me, but it had to be ignited by a spark.

Just like a phoenix rising from the ashes, after years of lying dormant, a spark ignites the spirit lifting up body and soul.

It's a wake-up call.

In my readings, I interpret Awakening as transformation about to occur, which will bring growth and expansion.

In a relationship reading, this could mean meeting someone, who will change your life, or an existing relationship is being examined due to new insights or developments.

For a single person, Awakening can mean being clear about standards, values, sexual preferences and expectations, therefore avoiding unsuitable, even emotionally harmful relationships.

In work and career matters, it can mean a calling, vocation, change of direction.

Awakening leads to something new and therefore personal growth.

What is your story of Awakening?

The Cosmic Journaling Oracle will be available in March 2016 as a digital download and shortly after as a printed deck.

In the meantime, you can explore Tarot Journaling with my ebook.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


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